promises.

Promises.

Promises are made all the time.

The problem is how many people actually intend in keeping their promise.

If all your trying to do is to get someone to shut up and leave you alone then make something up; that your busy, have too much on your plate right now and any other excuse you can think of instead of –Promising someone something.

My heart has been broken time after time with these so-called “promises”.

Not just by ex boy friends or futures crushes but by family members, friends and even acquaintances.

Personally even if you don’t know the person that well and they tell you they are going to do something and they don’t, well then you know now you can trust this person.

My point with this all is, grow some balls and tell the truth. If you don’t want to hurt some ones feelings then figure out a way to say something without the person thinking/ expecting something.

Some guy/girl won’t leave you alone and you think he/she likes you but you don’t feel the same way about them. Instead of saying yeah we are defiantly going to do something, just say I can’t right now I have stuff to do. Make something up just don’t get their hopes up and then disappoint them.

My dad has done this so many times that I have reached the conclusion that I can never really rely on him. As much as I love him and I wish we had a better relationship its never going to happen.

So if he ever says anything to me I just listen to what he says and then go on with my life and if he ever actually does follow up on what he said then I can be happy, but I won’t be miserable anymore hoping that one day he will actually do what he said he would.

Now lets talk about boy friends. They are probably the best at getting your hopes up and then destroying your dream.

Sorority Sisters.

Its interesting how when went through recruitment I listened to what my Rho Gamma was saying; she kept building this image up that made every single girl in that room believe that she was the most important person in the world.

I myself fell into that category.

Then when I was on the other side and I was trying to make every single girl desire that she was in Alpha Xi Delta Sorority girl.

We build up this image that draws people in and wish they were be part of that.

Don’t get me wrong the best decision I ever made was becoming a sister of Alpha Xi Delta.

The funny thing is that its not just my sorority, its every single sorority and fraternities duty to do this. To draw people in and make them want to be part of this family.

Which is good, because once your initiated you are promising that you will keep every secrete that has been handed down from generation to generation which started the day it was founded.

By breaking these promises you are destroying millions of boys/girls dreams.

So stop. Stop saying things you don’t intend of doing and be truthful.

It’s amazing how what people say can affect you.

As much as you want to act tough—Your heart still is open and is waiting for destruction.

It’s the only thing in life that we know for sure will happen

Stupidity.

I find it interesting how easy it is to feel stupid.

Unfortunately I am more vulnerable than I was when I was younger. Which is weird; I mean as a little kid your feelings get hurt easily. If a boy is mean to you and says you have cooties, or if your friends start saying things about your clothes. Especially when you’re a girl. If you haven’t gone through puberty and your breast aren’t big enough than you feel self-conscious. If you’re not as skinny as everyone else is.

All of these things change the way you feel. Making it easy for you to feel stupid.

As a girl when I guy cheats on you or breaks your heart you continue to beat yourself up by saying telling yourself that you were stupid not to realize how much of an ass he was. It goes either way, you can feel like this too if you’re a guy. But for some weird reason they don’t show it, so we all –us girl find it fascinating and wonder why we can’t be like guys.

Sexist. We are all guilty of this.

I always take it personal when someone says well she’s a slut, but if it was a guy then it’s fine. Well recently I figured out why we have turned this all into the mess we have of treating women and men differently.

If you’re a girl and you get pregnant when your young, not will the guys say that you’re a slut but girls will too. But why is she a slut, I mean everyone else is having sex its just due to the consequences of not being careful enough you made a mistake and now have to live with it.

It gets more intense though

Its becoming more and more common for girls to have abortions. The thing is, since no one talks about it then no one realizes its going on.